The Feminist Porn Awards

I read this article about The Feminist Porn Awards. Yes, there is feminist porn. No, I wasn't aware of it until I stumbled upon the article.

As the story goes, some critics were concerned these pornographic videos aren't feminist at all. A bit baffling, but as I delved around the internet, I noticed a few disconcerting stigmas attached to feminism.

There seems to be this misconception that there is no room for sexuality or sexual enjoyment when it comes to feminism or being a feminist. That's a little worrisome for me. As I think feminism is sexy. And men who are pro-feminist, that's a very real turn on. Nothing like equal rights to get me all hot and bothered.

My question is, where in the rule book does it say being a feminist means you cannot enjoy sex? Or men? Or penises? Or dirty movies?

This make come as a shock, but some women like sex. And some women like porn. And according to breaking news, some feminists like sex and porn. And, to throw the world completely off kilter, some feminists like sex and porn and being submissive.

I'm not too sure why feminism is so hard for people to understand.

It is not about striping away our sexuality and becoming asexual, unfeminine burlap sack wearing nuns. It's about equal rights. It's the movement which advocates the social, political and other rights of women to be equal to those of men.

Simply put, men have the right to watch and enjoy porn, to be submissive in the sack or dominant - women should too.


It's true the pornography industry has a very shady belly most of us wouldn't want to explore while suited up in riot gear. A lot of pornography centres around women being degraded and controlled. Women are slapped, spat on, used and abused in a vast array of 'films'. There is the whole humiliation, rape fantasy scene which seems to have become very popular, but which mostly just scares the living daylights out of me.

Sure, women in porn will vow up and down that they love their jobs, and I'm sure many of them do, but we cannot deny there is a certain air of intimidation in a lot of porn. Lately, the trend does seem to be very misogynistic. But, that doesn't change the fact that there is a lot of other porn out there. And it doesn't change the fact that some women prefer the masochistic sexual endeavours. This does not make them women haters or anti-feminism. It just means they like more colourful ways of rocking their socks.

I understand what I am saying could bring up a very heated argument. But a very wise friend of mine recently said, 'Sex does not define you. It's just an expression of elements of your psyche. It has nothing to do with real feminist issues.' 

And I will leave it at that and go check out what exactly feminist porn is. Colour me curious. 

8, 12, 14

The title of this post is not the code to the safe in my closet where I hide all my riches and alternate identification cards. It's the size tag that goes along with the picture shown below.

This snapshot of three very attractive women caught my eye, not only because I like brunettes, but because of the caption. It stated women's ideal size is eight, which us what the lady on the left represents, but that men would rather have a size size twelve, the middle model, or fourteen, woman on the right. 

When I saw the comments being posted underneath this photo on another blog, I was a little shocked. Men and women dug in to debate which one of these ladies was the hottest. This made me sad because, in my opinion, all three of these women are attractive. In this case, size does not matter. Each one of these bonny belles have physical attributes I'd be happy to handle, if given the opportunity. 

And I'm sure they are all dynamic, witty girls with greats senses of humour. Let's not forget what's on the inside, because that counts, right? 

Right? 

Pro-Feminist

Why is it people think in order to be a feminist you have to be angry, listen to indie-girl-rock, have dreads, be unwashed and hate men?

That's all poppycock. Not to mention, a stereotype. And not a very good one. I bathe all the time and very rarely get angry.


I'm proof you can be a feminist and still love cock.


To spell it out, feminism is:

• the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men 

• an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women. 

Yes, it is that simple.

Women who support feminism are feminists. It has nothing to do with how long their leg hair is or whether or not they spell women with a 'y'. People who rant on about the spelling of 'women' are fighting the wrong battle. There are so many bigger issues to be tackled. Let's not waste manpower over such silly, inconsequential things as the spelling of a word.

Did you know men can support feminism?

In fact, many do.

These decent human beings of the male gender are referred to as 'pro-feminists'. There is a very wonderful blog called A Radical Profeminist and, if you're interested in reading a guy's take on the whole kit and caboodle, I suggest visiting him.  His blog exists to "challenge white heterosexual male supremacy as an institutionalized ideology and a systematized set of practices which are misogynistic, heterosexist, racist, genocidal, and ecocidal." 


I like people who aren't sexist, racist, homophobes. 


Is that stating the obvious?

Emma Watson

While it is tempting to remark upon all the poor behaviour and scantily clad women there are on television and in movies, I am opting to go a different route.  Banging on about how these poor role models are harming our children is pointless.

Putting a spotlight on the negative will only bring more attention to it. So, we must look at the positive.

Emma Watson is a positive.


Recently, I stumbled upon a quote by Ms. Watson, who many know from a little known series called Harry Potter, and I thought to myself, "Wow."

A very simple thought, but I was impressed with, not only her opinion, but her strength in expressing herself.

She is, without a doubt, a strong, talented and wonderful woman. I can only hope young girls take a page from her book.

Here is the quote I read:

“I find the whole concept of being ‘sexy’ embarrassing and confusing. If I do an interview with photographs people desperately want to change me - dye my hair blonder, pluck my eyebrows, give me a fringe. Then there’s the choice of clothes. I know everyone wants a picture of me in a mini-skirt. But that’s not me. I feel uncomfortable. I’d never go out in a mini-skirt. It’s nothing to do with protecting the Hermione image. I wouldn’t do that. Personally, I don’t actually think it’s even that sexy. What’s sexy about saying, ‘I’m here with my boobs out and a short skirt, have a look at everything I’ve got?’ My idea of sexy is that less is more. The less you reveal the more people can wonder.”